As a mom, do I think spending as much quality time as possible with your children is a beautiful thing? Yes, of course! But you know what else is a beautiful thing? Also making the time to maintain a healthy, loving relationship with your significant other. I get A LOT of DMs asking how Chris & I keep the romance alive post-babies and my 3 top answers are –
1️⃣ Communication -
2️⃣ Being on the same team and each other’s biggest supporters -
3️⃣ Continuing to date each-other forever.
*A date doesn’t always need to be a full on romantic candle lit dinner at your favorite restaurant, it can be as simple as catching up over a bowl of ice cream with one other on the couch after you’ve put the kids to bed which can be just as (if not more) intimate.
I think good parenting sometimes means making your marriage a priority. Kids feel when their parents are stressed/not connecting with one another. -
A few months back Kai overheard Chris & I bickering over something silly and without even raising our voices he knew something wasn’t right. He came over to me, put his arm on my shoulder & said “It’s ok Mommy & Daddy. It’s ok”. Just because they’re little, doesn’t mean they’re not incredibly intuitive.
As for the inevitable parenting guilt that goes along with leaving your kids at home for a date that social media makes us mothers VERY well aware of, instead of feeling guilty turn it into a positive & loving message to your kids. By letting them know you’re excited to spend some time with their dad, you’re leaving them with the message that “Mommy & Daddy really love each other and need special time together too” giving them a positive outlook on relationships and marriage for their own future.
The love between you and your significant other is the foundation of your family. Never lose sight of what made you fall in love with each-other. ❤️