Dear sisters, As many of us around the world continue to be inspired by #TheRoyalWedding, I want to share something with you because I know that so many women (young and old) can relate. When it comes to matters of the heart and dating, there are so many things I wish I would have known or had someone tell me earlier on. Luckily for me, I’ve been a quick learner and I’ve been blessed to find just the right mentors, yes, even in the form of a book. I read this excerpt the other day and I thought I’d share it with my fellow sisters to give you a glimpse into how you too can be better equipped to #fightforyourfairytale . Here’s a little #WomanlyWisdom101 in case no one in your life has ever told ya 😉:
“There is an emotional promiscuity we’ve noticed among many good young men and women. The young man understands something of the journey of the heart. He wants to talk, to “share the journey.” The woman is grateful to be pursued, she opens up. They share the intimacies of their lives - their wounds, their walks with God. But he never commits. He enjoys her... then leaves. And she wonders, What did I do wrong? She failed to see his passivity. He really did not ever commit or offer assurances that he would. Like Willoughby to Marianne in Sense and Sensibility.
Be careful you do not offer too much of yourself to a man until you have good, solid evidence that he is a strong man willing to commit. Look at his track record with other women. Is there anything to be concerned about there? If so, bring it up. Also, does he have any close male friends - and what are they like as men? Can he hold down a job? Is he walking with God in a real and intimate way? Is he facing the wounds of his own life, and is he also demonstrating a desire to repent of Adam’s passivity and/or violence? Is he headed somewhere with his life? A lot of questions, but your heart is a treasure, and we want you to offer it only to a man who is worthy and ready to handle it well.” — Stasi Eldridge , Captivating: Unveiling the Mystery of a Woman's Soul 💕💫 #loveandmarriage #marriage #singlelady #singleman #datingapp