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Wendy โ€ข Apt. B Photography  Whimsical wedding photographer, lifestyle brand photographer + lady boss mentor. Into ๐Ÿ‘‰๐ŸปPaleo, pugs, polka dots, CrossFit + coffee shops. ๐ŸŒฟSavannah๐ŸŒฟ

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Oh boy, friends. If you've been watching my Stories the last 24 hours, you've seen me begin a sugar detox, get stressed out by a sugar detox, and quit a sugar detox. Yep.
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I may or may not have a tendency to overcommit, and I may or may not often do things because I feel like I need to prove something - whether it's to myself or to someone else. And that, my friend, results in nothing but (bad) stress, which is something I would like to avoid at all costs.
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Did you know you can overdo it on self-care?! Haha, yes you sure can, and I hit that point yesterday. When something you are doing stops feeling good, STOP DOING IT. I really believe it's your intuition saying it's not for your higher good - even if it's technically a "good" thing to do.
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So, my intuition right now is telling me that sticking to Paleo makes me feel GOOD. Continuing to detox off antidepressants makes me feel GOOD (even when the surface level symptoms feel bad, deep down I feel good about it). Tweaking the amount of protein and veggies I'm eating based on my health coach's recommendation sounds GOOD. Putting down the spiritual/self-improvement books in order to read some fiction feels GOOD. Continuing to train hard at Crossfit feels GOOD. Meditating and journaling as often as possible, but maybe not every day, feels GOOD. Going to acupuncture weekly feels GOOD.
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And someday, quitting alcohol and dairy for a bit will feel good. And someday doing another full-on sugar detox will feel good. But today isn't that day, and that's ok.
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So, I'm off to drink my butter and cream-filled Bulletproof coffee, read a mindless book, get in a good workout, and spend my day feeling GOOD.
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What's making you feel good right now? โœจ

Happy Friday! If you're new around here, hello!! I'm Wendy, a whimsical wedding photographer, lifestyle brandographer, and lady boss mentor. I live in Savannah, but I've got a wandering soul and I'm happiest when I've got a big trip coming up. (California in Aug. + Thailand in Dec. - ahhhh!!)
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And if you are super new around here, let me catch you up on the last few months, because it's made a big impact on who I am and what I want to do in the future...
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In March, I did a 21 day sugar detox that changed my life, and I've been eating Paleo ever since. In April, I got a pug puppy named Winston. In May, I went through an unexpected breakup, and I learned how to forgive at a depth I didn't think was possible. In June, I moved into a new apartment by myself. And now it's July, and I'm smack dab in the middle of the biggest, most profound spiritual, physical, mental, and emotional transformation I've ever been through. Right now I'm a bizarre mix of joyful, uncomfortable, disoriented, excited, curious, open, grieving, growing, and exploring. It's kind of a lot all at once, but I wouldn't have it any other way, because I am 100% confident that the universe knows exactly what it's doing, and if I can let go of the reins, I'll truly enjoy the ride.
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As a result of all this change, I've seen this little corner of the internet transform into something beyond just wedding prettiness + Savannah landscapes. Those are still major parts of my life and business, but I can feel Apt. B moving around inside its cocoon, readying itself for whatever is on the other side.
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And I'm not exactly sure what that other side will look like - but I think it will be a beautiful mix of comfortable sameness and wild newness.
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If you want to follow along as I figure out this whole life + love + lady boss thing, I would be so grateful to have you here. I think of this community as one big support group for our collective and individual journeys, and the more the merrier!
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Anyone else feeling like their cocoon is about to burst open, revealing something beautiful beyond their wildest dreams?โœจ๐Ÿฆ‹
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๐Ÿ“ท: @alexissweetphoto + edited by me

Sometimes you text your best friend a super angsty rant about all the things, and she calls you and not only listens while you talk, but then lays down some insane wisdom - which of course I had to share with all of you, because damn. It was that good...
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Joy is a CHOICE, and happiness or sadness or anger are FEELINGS.
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You can be joyful and feel really, really sad or deeply angry at the same time. You can also be joyful and at the same time feel blissfully happy, but joy and happiness can be present for completely unrelated reasons.
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I don't know why that never clicked for me before - that emotions can come and go and change on the surface, but if you have chosen joy deep down, that can stay constant amidst the changing tide of emotions. And I neeeeeded to understand that to be able to sort through much of what I've been feeling the last two months.
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And side note for anyone who is into the concept of ego vs. intuition - I think it makes total sense that the ego is where all of our emotions live, while our deeper intuition is where joy lives and grows as we turn our attention (and intention) towards it. So I'm actually thinking you can get to internal alignment even on an emotionally sad day, which I used to think was counterintuitive - and which was exhausting me because I was trying to maintain constant happiness for the sake of alignment. (@jessclively, I would love to hear more of your thoughts on whether alignment and flow is really possible in the midst of feeling emotions such as sadness or anger.)
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Sending you all light + love, no matter what emotion is dancing around on the surface for you right now. Just remember - it doesn't have to touch your joy. โœจโค๏ธ

I'm overflowing with joy today, and there's no rhyme or reason to it. Just feeling it vibrating deep in my bones, and there's really no better feeling. I am present, I am alive, I am hopeful, I am grateful, and I am happy. โค๏ธ (Bouquet + Dress: @ivoryandbeau)

Rainy days in Savannah are some of my favorite, because I swear this city gets more magical in the rain. The brick roads glisten and the gas lamps flicker, and the green in the trees brightens to a surreal color. I even find it endearing that half of Savannah's roads flood so badly they aren't drivable, and you have to find crazy routes around the really bad spots. (I'll admit, when you're trying to get somewhere on time, that can be annoying - but deep down I really love it.)
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So if it rains on your wedding day, don't fret, sweet friend. I've got you covered, both literally with a cute, clear umbrella and figuratively with creative solutions to wet situations. And sometimes, like on Devin + Elisse's wedding day, we just wait for a break in the clouds and then make magic on the rain-soaked sidewalks. โœจโค๏ธ

Just a little pretty for all my fellow night owls out there. ๐ŸŒ›โญ๏ธโœจI'm trying hard to kick the up-too-late habit, because I actually really have come to love getting up early - I look forward to my mornings now because they are filled with things I love (coffee, Winston, reading, music, meditation and journaling), and I find myself craving more and more of those slow morning minutes before I officially begin my day. But, in order to have that time before the world wakes up and the to-do list begins calling to me, I need to get enough sleep...so off to bed I go. Goodnight, sweet friends! โค๏ธ

I had a realization about something this morning. As I've been taking a closer look at where my money goes lately (because living alone is more expensive and I need to do some financial #adulting to stay on budget), I realized that Amazon Prime is a PROBLEM for me. Am I the only one out there who can one-click order faster than you can say HEY MAYBE YOU DON'T ACTUALLY NEED THAT?! ๐Ÿ™ˆYeah, I hear a book or product recommendation and my itchy little shopping fingers will order it before my brain has time to decide if that's a good idea for my bank account.
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So, I deleted the Amazon Prime app from my phone. Which I won't lie, was painful. I get a high from online shopping, and I know it's a similar feeling I used to get from eating junk food. It fills whatever void and calms whatever stress I feel in the moment, but the high is very short-lived. Then I start to feel guilt over the spontaneous purchases, and I feel smothered by all the "things" I own. (Moving makes you SO aware of how much unnecessary shit you own.) And that's not behavior I want in my life or feelings I want experience.
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But I didn't stop there. I also deleted the Papa Johns app (haven't used it in awhile, but it was just sitting there tempting me), as well as the Etsy app (also WAY too easy to shop). Basically any sort of spur-of-the-moment bad decision enabler has got to GO.
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From now on, if I think of something I want or need to buy, it's going into Wunderlist (have you used that app?! #listmakingheaven), and if I still want or need it when I have time to sit at my computer, then I can order it from there.
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Any other Prime addicts out there? ๐Ÿ™‹๐Ÿผ๐Ÿ™‹๐Ÿผ๐Ÿ™‹๐Ÿผ#amazonprimeanonymous Let's kick the one-click habit together!!

Lately I've been very focused on figuring out a morning routine that will get me into alignment before I start my day. I want to do things that make me feel joyful and peaceful before I do work, because from what I've been learning about how energetic vibrations of matter work (spoiler alert: we are made of matter, so our bodies have a vibration just like everything else on the planet), raising your vibration BEFORE you work will help you achieve more effortless results. Why? Because then you aren't working against the flow. You aren't working from a negative place of fear or worry, and you aren't trying to strong arm your way into success. Instead, you are getting into alignment with your higher purpose, and as a result everything will flow more easily.
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(Sidenote: I'm still very much learning about all of this, so I'm not great at explaining it yet. If you want a place to start to understand more of what I'm talking about, I recommend @jessclively's podcast The Lively Show, and I would begin specifically with the episodes she titled the "Quantum Living" series.)
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So, back to the morning routine. I'm working one-on-one with @amykuretsky through her Self-Care for Creative Entrepreneurs course on determining what exactly brings me peace and joy first thing in the morning, so I can be in alignment as I begin my day. And so far, I've learned a few thingsโ€ฆall of which youโ€™ll have to read on the blog, because IG has a word limit and apparently I have quite a bit to say about this topic! Ha!
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Iโ€™m curious - what's your morning routine look like? Do you have one? Are you into things like alignment and positive energy? Have I completely weirded you out with all my woo woo talk? โœจ๐Ÿ˜˜
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P.S. This photo is from the coloring book-inspired wedding shoot I did with @ivoryandbeau, which was recently published by @weddingchicks. Dress is @blushbyhayleypaige from @ivoryandbeau, hair + makeup by @shea.24 for @royalmakeupandhair, flowers by @ivoryandbeau, venue is @welmont_co, and the lovely model is @keelamonsterrr.

My handsome little guy is looking SO grown up these days!! Where did all his baby fat go?!? ๐Ÿ˜ญ I know I'm totally THAT dog mom who thinks her kid is the cutest on the block. (But come on...he is, right?!๐Ÿ˜) I was talking to friends this morning about how much joy and comfort fur babies bring into your life, no matter what kind of animal they are. So double tap if you are a fur parent, and leave emojis in the comments so describe the animals who are part of your family! ๐Ÿถ๐Ÿˆ

Have you ever worried that talking about your successes in life will make someone else feel bad? Or do you worry that if abundance comes your way, you'll be taking something from someone else?
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I've battled a bad money mindset most of my life. My family struggled financially, going through times when scraping together a few coins from the couch cushions so we could go to the local pool was the highlight of our summer. There were good years + bad years, but as a kid, the bad ones form your money story.
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And my story has always been that being financially successful should equal guilt. ๐Ÿ˜ณI've worried that my accomplishments would make someone feel bad, and that making more money than others would somehow take something from them.
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When I called my parents to tell them I quit my full-time job, + that I had 6 months of savings squirreled away as a safety net, I cried + admitted that I felt deep guilt + sadness for accomplishing something (starting a successful business) at 28 years old that my dad had dreamed of doing his whole life. (Btw - I still think there's time for him to do that! There's ALWAYS time!) It took a lot of reassuring that they felt nothing but pride + joy over my accomplishments, and that my success wasn't negatively affecting them at all.
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I've been on a journey to change my money story. To stop the lack mindset + guilt, and acknowledge that there is as much money out there are there are drops in the ocean. If you scooped a cup of water out of the ocean, you might have billions of drops, but the ocean would still be full. (Thanks @jameswedmore for the analogy!)
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So, in the spirit of embracing abundance + changing my money story, I want to pop champagne today (shh, I'll really be drinking kombucha) to celebrate that last night I officially paid off my student loans and am now entirely DEBT FREE (personal + business). And it's b/c I worked hard, saved money + made good decisions...and I'm damn proud of myself.
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I want everyone to embrace abundance!! So, let's celebrate each other's successes below. It doesn't have to be financial - just share anything that is making you feel like a badass. ๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿป

Hi, I'm Wendy, and I like to keep it real around here - sometimes more real than most people are comfortable with. But that's ok! My story isn't meant for everyone, and those who resonate with my words are meant to be here. (And I'm SO grateful to have you!)
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So, a little check-in - I'm having a bleh day. Some unexpected anxiety set in last night, and I'm having a hard time shaking it. Now here's the REAL talk - I'm currently weaning off one of my antidepressants (Wellbutrin), taking 1/2 doses for the last couple weeks. And it's been ok for the most part, but anxiety is making its way back into my daily life. Bleh! Once I've weaned off this medication, I'll start weaning off the other one (Lexapro), + then I'll be free from antidepressants completely. ๐ŸŽ‰
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Now don't get me wrong - they did help when I first started taking them. Hell, they still are! But, the side effects are crap (hello weight gain!), and the more research I've done, the more I'm thinking that medication isn't the way I want to manage this aspect of my health.
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P.S. I'm also still on the journey of figuring out whether there's a thyroid or adrenal issue contributing to allll the things (anxiety/weight gain/fatigue/joint pain), so there's that as well.
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Today life isn't easy. But, I'm digging deep for faith that the universe has it under control, and that someday I'll look back on this season and be SO grateful it happened. Hell, maybe that's what I need to meditate on - being grateful for the uncomfortable parts of life, because they are Iikely just accelerating me towards something great if I stay open to that option.
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In fact, I'm planning to write a newsletter (I know, it's been awhile since #makemondaysgreatagain happened!) comparing difficult seasons of life to "apparition" + "splinching" (yes, from Harry Potter because duh). Want to hear more?? (You know you want some HP magic in your Monday inbox! ๐Ÿ˜) Just follow the link in my bio + get on the list! ๐Ÿ˜˜โšก๏ธ
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I wasn't surprised to learn during today's mentoring shoot that Jessica + Matt had gotten engaged just two weeks ago - because their looks of sweet adoration, constant belly laughs, and ability to make each other giggle at the drop of a hat were such a genuine joy to photograph. I couldn't have asked for a better shoot for my sweet mentoring client, @mlmphotoga!
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Melanie was such a trooper today, spending hours diving deep into branding + social media, rocking out a muggy + buggy photo shoot with our sweet couple, and then honing her culling + editing process to wrap up the day.
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Huge thanks to everyone who made today possible - Melanie for being an incredible mentoring client, Jessica + Matt for braving the heat and rain to create some gorgeous images, and @ivoryandbeau for providing the dress, veil and bouquet for this shoot. โœจโค๏ธ (Dress: @katemcdonaldbridal | Veil: @adeleameliabridal)
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Psst...if you want to know more about mentoring opportunities, pop over to the link in my bio! And don't worry - there are options for anyone who isn't a Savannah local too. Thank goodness for Skype! ๐Ÿ˜˜

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